Save A Child of Divorce

      “Administer true justice; show mercy and compassion to one another. Do not oppress the widow or the fatherless, the alien or the poor. In your hearts do not think evil of each other” (Zechariah 6: 10).

      You are probably saying, “I have no idea what or who you lived with.” You are wrong. I grew up in a abusive household, went through two abusive marriages, and my third marriage is right now due to me getting into the word of God and lots of books on true values and moral character, plus classes on parenting and self improvement. It took me several years to get here; it will not happen overnight for you. It is a learning process and requires practice, over and over again. It is the study of yourself and others. Even after being in the abusive relationship, I could not hold back the father of the children just due to the fact of the children would feel unloved or forgotten. Only God knows what to do there. I just know what to do because of the feelings long ago.

      Being a child of divorce, I understand how that child feels. A child without the other parent around and a parent who has had her children taken away, I truly understand. I surely understand all sides of the issue. I really feel for the kids and understand how they feel and why they feel this way. I also feel greatly for the other parent, not having the child around, the empty feeling, the longing to just hold their child. In this type of family nowadays, there are no moral values that I see in this family where one parent takes away the child from the other parent. How can that ever be right for the child?

      Children of divorce were never shown the right values in life—to honor each other and not to make judgment against the other person for what they had done. For you don’t know their true heart. To walk in true love, which is the way to true happiness, is not to judge one another or covet each other. Covet means to desire what belongs to another, to wish enviously, wanting and taking someone else’s possessions. This is why I am against child support unless the other parent gives it up willing, that is, voluntary. Then it is not coveting the other parent. I know of too many parents that are put into poverty due to child support costs and the courts don’t even care to help either the parent or the child. I also know getting the children half the time and still paying child support really puts the parent in poverty. Telling your kids you can’t buy them stuff is not fun.

      The only real kids that make it after a divorce are the ones whose parents still work together for the kid’s sake. They are the ones that go to college and have good futures ahead of them. They are the ones with strong character and moral values installed in their life. Parents that work together show the child how things should be done. They don’t argue in front of the child, they don’t belittle the other parent in front of the child or on the phone. They look out for the best interest for that child of theirs, together. They teach that child to respect and give respect to everyone, and especially the other parent. They work together, they talk, and they care about their child and how he feels and thinks. They still think about the other parent and child. They treat the other person the way they would love to be treated. They give that child both parents.