You Ain't My Dad

Chapter 3 Sex ain’t Love I guess sex is a great way to start a conversation about having babies. I had my first child at the age of twenty four, and it was a boy. I thought this was going to be the turning point in my life. I had a boy, and I thought I would be able to mold him to be better version of me, and to guide him on how to make good choices, because I certainly was all too familiar with making unwise choices, so I was going to imbue into him the opposite of what my crazy experiences were. I was going to teach my baby boy how to use his brain to navigate through this journey called life. I was going to teach him how to be a man, and do all those things men do. Whatever that is? Of course none of this happens, because if it did the title of this book would have a different name. Life is truly a miracle and so very precious; however, somehow the great wonder of creating a life had turn out to be a major crisis for me. My five minutes of pleasure had manifested into a life time of pain in the worsted imaginable way. The birth of my child would turn out like a Shakespeare’s tragedy. I want to inform the readers that there is a difference between sex and love. The era that I grew up in, it was a symbol of manhood to go back on the block and tell your homeboys how many women you had conquered with your pulsating manhood. It was like a badge of honor and acceptance into manhood to knock a piece of meat, because that is how I viewed women as something to consume and devour. The more women I persuaded to drop their panties the more respect my boys had for me. I became a legend in my own mind. The more I hunted the better I got, and after perfecting my skills. I became a natural at emotionally scarring and taking and giving nothing in return. I thought all I had to offer women was my good phallus, but I would discover many years later that there is more to being a man than keeping a woman in the prone position. We need to make love to each other minds and not just our physical body. In a healthy relationship a man feeds his woman mind, and the woman feeds her man’s mind. This sets the stage for them to go beyond their natural potential and excel in God’s supernatural potential. Lisa a woman of God said this: “God has impregnated every woman with a seed of destiny, and in order to give birth to her true purpose, a loving man of God will have to align himself with her to assist her in giving birth to her true destiny. This man must have a kingdom mindset and his connection with God must be his Ultimate Authority to yield forth the peaceable fruit of holiness, righteousness, and faith by which no man can experience God’s greatest blessing.” Men and women when you call yourselves hooking up with your significant other make sure you able to feed each other with these five essential elements: physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and financially. Women and men there is a different between sex and love, because sex ain’t love and love ain’t sex. See when I had sex it was just an act being performed: in the bedroom, in the car, behind a dumpster, behind a garage, in a garage, inside a dressing room at a busy shopping mall, under the blankets on the beach. Well, you get the picture. I was always thinking below the waist that’s where my though process began. I was always thinking with my little head and not my big head above my shoulders.