WHEN TIME DOESN'T HEAL
HOW TO OVERCOME LOSS, GRIEF, TRAUMA AND PTSD IN 30 MINUTES OR LESS
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Contrary
to the popular folk belief - “Time heals all things” - in reality it does
not. What time does allow is to give a
person’s own internal strategies time enough to loop through enough repetitions
to reprogram his or her own internal thinking or “strategy” using that person’s
own thought patterns (words). In effect a person is utilizing their own
personal meta-programs, applying them, and taking them through their own
personal “threshold” unaware of the final outcome or desired results, thus a
happenstance result or being at the effect of the circumstances. In the Nichols
Process almost everything is processed volitionally, the meta-programs and
words are elicited informally from the presenting emotion or problem. The “Grief Model” is also applied volitionally
to assist the client to traverse their “threshold” barrier. “Threshold” is a critical concept in bringing
emotionally charged events to a conclusion. The conclusion is going to be
negative, neutral, or positive. With the
Nichols Process the conclusion is going be positive because the client and
therapist are working together to be “at cause,” vice “at random
effect.” There are choices to make and the choice of choices is always in the model
or randomness chosen. Here and now, the choice is the Nichols Process where you
are in the driver’s seat to make great or better than great choices. Through
this repetition of choices hopefully the point has been made. Enough has been
written about the importance of repetition and choices? Now onto
the Nichols Process.
The
basic stages of the Nichols Process or formula are: 1) the presenting emotion;
2) denial; 3) bargaining; 4) blaming; and, 5) resolution (future pacing). Each stage is to be taken through threshold
with any accompanying secondary gain or emotions rooted out. This is calibrated by observing the client in
each stage and following up on the observed emotional physiology. (This may be enhanced by familiarity with
NLP). Once calibrated and completed, any of the subsequent stages is taken
through “threshold” until all have been taken through a catharsis “threshold,”. The idea is to take
the emotional content (presenting problem) from the past, bring it into to the
present, and finish with the future, by “future pacing” future events. . There is no sacredness to the order of which
stage is dealt with next save the presenting emotion. In religious terms, this is taking the
problem from brokenness (sin) needing a forgiveness stage for both self and
others, to a prophetic utterance or prophecy stage. The religious or spiritual processes or ideas
are discussed in Dr. Nichols’
Neuro Theology: Everything
They Didn’t Teach You in Sunday School book.
What
if the individual is in the middle of the problem, meaning the problem has not
run its course, then the model or program will need to
be re-run, that is, taken through “threshold” each time the event is stacked
with new emotional input because each is likened unto a new event and time is related
via emotional events. The running of the process brings closure to already completed (past time) events, that is, events in which the emotional content is no longer having new
data introduced. Examples of this are a death, a divorce, loss
or trauma that happened in the past, yesterday, last week, last month, last
year, ten years ago, et. al.
Ongoing
problems, such as, dealing with someone in the process of dieing, someone going through the divorce process but still
unresolved or a traumatic not yet completed will require a re-running of the
process to root out new negative emotions, new data, input, or stimuli.
Is there any other really good news? Well, the Nichols Process brings a person into the now, this existential moment, with old negative emotions being replaced with neutral and positive ones. With an already completed event, the process will not need to be run or completed again. A person no longer has to be randomly at “effect” or at a happenstance emotional juncture. He or she can and will be at “cause” and choice of their own emotions
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About the Book
Often
times people have problems in getting over or beyond
an emotional or traumatic event in their life, such as, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).
When time doesn’t heal or complete its job and all seems hopeless, yet, there is still help and it is found in this book.
Overcoming PTSD, grief or any
loss includes all forms of mental trauma in which there is some form of emotional brokeness. These could include PTSD, a war zone experience, the loss of
a loved one, the break up of a relationship such as divorce, losing a companion, losing a pet, a sports loss, a financial disaster or whatever.
Any or all of these can be a major catastrophic loss for an individual,
some, even causing death. As already
indicated the healing process goes beyond just traditional methodologies, such
as death, dying and grief as explained by Kubler Ross. It includes a methodology that overcomes debilitating secondary gain, PTSD or any emotional loss. All problems have solutions. Many protocols and solutions are found in this book.
About the Author
Dr. M L Nichols has proven to be an innovative insightful and informative expert on Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). He retired from the US Navy as a Lieutenant Commander Chaplain and the California Department of Corrections and Rehabilitation (CDCR). His peers and superiors have always said, "He is twenty years (20) ahead of his time." At Marine Corps Base Camp Pendleton, he was awarded the Navy Achievement Medal for creating "the most innovative and effective correctional religious program in the United States," which lowered the incident rate by a documented 60 per cent.
After going to work for CDCR, he completed Post Graduate Work in Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and was awarded Master Practioner and Trainer of NLP and Time Line Therapy Certifications.
Dr. Nichols graduated number one in his two Navy Leadership and Management Courses. While in the Navy he earned a Doctor of Ministry degree from San Francisco Theological Seminary. He did original work in Stress and Copying Techniques and applied Leadership and Management Techniques.
His published works include: Communicate Through the Windows of the Mind, Playing in the Zone Made Easy, "The Four Key Elements of a Successful Institutional Intervention," The Alpha Omega Process, When Time Doesn't Heal, and The One Minute Leader.