Take Back Your Power!

Imagine!

What would it feel like to just be you and wake up with boundless energy, eager to start the day and explore the wonders the day holds for you as you follow your dreams?  Oh, you know it also might bring some painful experiences.  But you’ve discovered what brings you joy and you’ve learned how to create it.  So painful experiences just can’t keep you down because your curious inner-nature is so motivated by your desire to be fulfilled that you can take life’s pain in stride. 

You’ve learned that in order to get beyond the pain of daily living, you have to have a clear understanding of your life’s purpose and an abiding belief in your ability to create it.  You’ve discovered at a profound level that the joy from living true to your heart is what motivates you to seek fulfillment and you’re committed to that quest.

What? Not true for you? Welcome to the real world where little or no importance is placed upon the development of our inner most “Self,” our Spirit, the very spark of life within where our passions for life reside.  It’s our Spirit within us who holds the blueprints to our destiny, the secrets of our purpose for being here in the first place.

But, most of us feel empty, overwhelmed, helpless and filled with anxiety!  Why? ... because our childhood experiences did not fulfill the stages of Self metamorphosis that enable us to become fully “Self” actualized so we can live the Life-Path of our dreams.

Here’s the bad news ... 94% 3 of us:
feel like something's wrong with me;
I'm not good enough;  I don't deserve love
spin-our-wheels in tug-of-war relationships
end up stuck, re-creating dead-end lives
continue with destructive, habitual behaviors
never have our desires fulfilled
lack Self-Esteem and Self-Respect

because ineffective role model experiences failed to provide the inner nurturing required to develop our instincts that lead to the discovery of our own “effective” Life-Creating skills.

Our Role Models include parents/caretakers, peers, teachers secular and religious, society, from our formative years.  Since few of them experienced inner fulfillment,  they were unable to instill it in us, so our “inner-Self” became inhibited.  The fires burning within us are smothered and we lose our passions for life!  In order for us to survive, our Spirit becomes bound like the heart of an onion...in endless layers of denial.  While our parents may have loved us, the critical factor is whether they knew how to show Love to us in the way essential for us to develop our inner Being.

Without Self-development, we lack the inner-power to create the desires of our heart.  We may achieve material success, but have an inner knowing that something is missing.  This accounts for the seemingly successful people who commit suicide, experience mid-life crises or in some other way act out their consuming emptiness.

In order to survive without knowing their self worth, the child develops a “survival belief” that’s strong enough to keep him/her alive.  Children know when they’re not shown love so they feel valued.  It’s a devastating shock to their system.  The first response to any shock is denial of the reality of the horror.  Universally, in order to survive, a child’s response is to deny the reality that their caretakers are failing them by instinctively concluding: “something’s wrong with me or I would be receiving love.”  This can become a habit;  without help we’ll live life in denial of reality.

A child responds in survival mode--lacking the ability to reason.  Blaming their not being shown love upon themselves, allows a small child to deny their devastating reality and focus on how to be good enough to “win” love.  This “belief” becomes grooved into a pathway in the brain.  We then live as adults believing something’s wrong with us...on an endless quest for “unavailable” love.

A lucky few have mentors somewhere along the way who teach them there’s nothing wrong with them; that adequate nurturing love just wasn’t provided for them as they needed it which caused them to feel unworthy.  It’s just a false belief.  But it’s still unconsciously controlling them today because most of us still live as adults acting out the “survival-belief-response” of children who did not complete “Self” development as their physical bodies matured.  We’re merely re-creating the lives of our role models.  We’re now a whole society operating with “survival responses,” unable to create the Life-Path of our destiny because this knowledge lies within our undeveloped Self.

Now I can hear the Blame Game beginning as you realize who was responsible for what.  That doesn’t get you anywhere!  Blame keeps you stuck when what you want is to develop into a fully-actualized human being.  We’ve seen the devastating results of a lack of nurturing love during childhood in numerous newspaper articles.  They were especially horrific as the airways were filled with pictures of countless infants dying in cribs in Rumania simply because there was no-one to hold and stroke them.  The babies were fed, but food alone wasn’t enough.  Touch stimulates growth hormones and w