Loving Sensual Exchange The Encyclopedia

Huddle down here with me now…
Let’s talk sex!

God was in one corner, sex in the other. They were segregated, separated, split off. The two were as distantly related as the east is from the west, as night from day. They had nothing in common.

As for God, well, God was…God! And what could be better than that? Being God was everything that represented good, including, of course, sex.

And sex? Well, sex was just sex. It was fun. But mostly it was an essential procreative aspect of life. Under appropriate terms, and in specific settings, it could be a fairly wondrous thing, to explore, to appreciate, but the terms were usually, and most relevantly, within the strict context of marriage, or, at the very least, in that of a deeply committed relationship.

Further terms included appropriateness of time and consumption, adherence to specific sexual patterns, restrictions in sexual thought, and much more. After all terms are met, one might then feel free to “break off a little for himself,” from time to time.

…Okay.

All of that was in a past life that I used to live.

No more.

I am not that person any more. During those times, and generally speaking, God and sex, as is the case of, say, oil and water, didn’t much mix. It never dawned on me then, as it does now, to participate in things such as remaining in a prayerful state while having sex, or of openly thanking God while locked in sexual intercourse, or of meditating on spirituality while engaged in sexuality at the same time, or of being worshipful, in the midst of the sexual act; and why not?

Because sex was something that was necessary to address in life, and then get beyond it, to more important matters lurking out there, like the business of God Himself, for example, and the business of trying to “live for God.”

I thus practiced what one might call “oops, excuse me” sex most of my young life, and deeply into my middle adult life too. Having recognized, right off the bat, that I did not seem to possess the virtues and attributes of a priest, or a monk, I subtly “took care” of my sexual needs and expressions in the quickest and most expedient fashion possible, so that I could – and I might add, with rapidity – get back to put more important matters back in hand.

No idea whatsoever was given to the fact that the celebration of sexual expression was an integral feature of those important matters.

But, hey wait a minute! Sex is of the utmost importance to most every one of us! Where would we be, in fact, without it? We need it. We not only need it, we want it. It’s good for us. Is this not true?

As an arthritis sufferer for many years, I recognize the value of extended sexual play. It really does sooth our bodies; it really does alleviate the pain and aching of arthritic bones. It takes care of more than that, too! It relives tension-related stress. It improves the immune system.

It is good physical fitness. It helps our overall mental heath.

Those are all good things; is there even more of this good that might be hanging around from where these medical realities emerge from?

I think so. Yes. Deep in our probing for it, we can find it – it’s there all right, and waiting for us to discover it.