Be A Dating Dahling

Ah...this thing called the “waiting-for-him-to-call me” test. Should I call? Should I not call? Why didn’t he call me? He said he was going to call? Maybe he’s sick? Maybe he’s dead? He said he really liked me. It can be soooo confusing!

When Not To Call:

If after any of the first three dates he hasn't called then do not call him!

He isn’t interested. Remember, you’ve made efforts to possibly make the first move to ask him out, and then after each date to look him in the eye, smile, and say you’ve had a great time and would love to do it again. If you want to call him, it’ll have to be some time after date three, when he has shown some initiative.

He Calls. You call. Then you do not hear from him.

LEAVE IT! Phone calling should be like ying and yang...give and take. If it’s all one-sided, then there’s a reason for that. Sweeties, don’t overanalyze the situation thinking maybe he didn’t get my message, or maybe he’s sick, or perhaps there’s something wrong, or if he hears my voice again he will remember how wonderful I am, or—worse—I could send him a cute email to get him to call me. Unfortunately, if he’s truly interested in you, it will be shown only with the action of him making that next move to phone you back.

You had a date, and he calls you back two weeks later with some lame excuse that he was too busy to call. 

Don’t dare call him! I can understand holidays, traveling, or a death in the family, but just being too busy for no good reason is a sure sign that a guy is not “wow” about you. A Dating Dahling knows if he really likes her, he will call to say, “Hi, can’t really talk but wanted you to know I was thinking about you, and I will call you later when I have more time.” A little something called common courtesy and effort goes a long way, my Loves.

After having sex with him he doesn't call. Then do not call him.

If you’ve had sex too early, then it is what it is. However, if you’ve waited to be intimate and the day after you made love he didn’t call, then unless he got up that morning to fly to Africa, lost his cell phone, had no money for a pay phone, landed in a remote jungle, and was kidnapped by a strange tribe, then there will be no excuse for him not to call you! Kick his insensitive butt to the curb! Do not dare contact him!

Your parents are coming into town, but you've only had a couple of dates with him - do not call him!

No matter how innocent we think it is, men feel an enormous pressure when meeting parents too early. To them, it’s a sign that you want a commitment too soon (then they will run)!