Unfaithful

Sex and Love

Let’s just get this out of the way now so we can move forward.

Sex and love are two different things; and in many cases don’t even slightly co-mingle with one another. I get kind of tired of some people complaining about how their partner cheated on them, when in all actuality they were partly to blame. Now I say some people because both men and women are guilty of this relationship ending offense. First we will start off with the men. Fellas, does it take you longer to get your clothes off to have sex than the actual act itself? Has your partner forgotten what an orgasm even feels like? Or at least what it feels like when you are actually in the room? The mentality that you are giving her some kind of gift to even be gracing her with some lame sex, will get you cheated on eventually. Now, from my experience it does take a little longer for a woman to go out and cheat but believe me it happens. By nature, women are nurturers and more patient than we are, but they are human and we all have our limits. The reason for this “grace period” that we get is that women tend to think that sex is somehow connected with love. At least they used to; but in this day in age women are acting much like the men of old and they will step out to get what they need in the bedroom. They usually come back because by nature they are smarter than we are. They won’t risk a life that they are 98% happy with just to get the 2% that they aren’t. What I’m trying to get to is men; you got to step up your game. Slow down a little or in some cases a lot, and let her enjoy it too. We can usually get what we need if the wind blows the right way, but you are going to have to put in some work to get her there. In my experience I found it much more enjoyable when I knew she got what she needed as much as I did. That satisfaction far outweighs the feeling you get when she is giving you the “is that it?” look; while your sorry ass is laying there trying to catch your breath and pretending that you don’t notice. Why is it that women settle for not having an orgasm every time they have sex? Men get to have one, assuming you didn’t get cut short or something like that. I have been told by women that they don’t need to have an orgasm every time and it is just a bonus if the sex is good. I as a man will never understand that. I figure if the sex is good then why in the hell not have one? To a man that is typically the only part we are even interested in. Test your man and see. Do you want to see him turn into an eight year old in two seconds flat? Try this. Get him all in the mood and get the sex good and hot and right before he is about to climax.... Stop. Stop whatever it is you are doing and just start cuddling with him or kissing him or whatever it is HE does after he usually gets off and leaves you all hot and bothered to fend for yourself. But whatever you do don’t let him finish and see how he reacts. I have been there and that is a bad, bad moment. It’s like running a marathon and getting right up to the finish line and quitting. Guys don’t hate on me because this is for your own good. She feels like this every time you half ass the sex with her and most women won’t even complain about it. On the flip side of the coin ladies, if you lay there and keep your mouth shut, you have basically told him that you were satisfied with what you got out of it. So guys you have to ask your self is it worth it to put in that extra 2% to keep her satisfied in the bedroom? Damn right it is! So count to ten, think about baseball, better yet, just stop! Pull out and show her some attention in other ways. Get yourself together and start all over again. I promise you she will appreciate it. You may actually learn that it pleases you even more when you know she is getting what she needs too.

On to the ladies,

I will be the first to admit that sex in our minds (men) is one of the most important parts of a relationship. The fact that you may not agree with or like it doesn’t make it any less true. Women have long been using sex as a leverage point to get men to do what they want. But just as things have changed for women, they have also changed for men. Our minds also work a lot different. We will leave a woman that we are 98% happy with for a woman that’s providing the 2% that you are holding hostage. At least in the old days we did come home. The problem is that the other woman is only supplying 2% of what we really need. Of course we usually don’t figure that out until it’s too late. The point is, why put him or yourself in that position? I’m telling you from experience that it doesn’t take that long either. It may take you as a woman months or even years of being unsatisfied before you step out on him, but a man can bring himself to do it in weeks what it takes you a year to do. That old saying about “if he really loves me he wouldn’t do that” is B.S.