Rejected but Still Prevailing

CHAPTER 1
Where does rejection start

Rejection begins with ones self it is how you feel. It can be caused from
many different avenues but Rejection is also a feeling based off of something
someone did or did not do, something someone said or did not say.

The bottom line is that rejection begins and ends with You, ,one of the most common forms of rejection is when someone says something that tears you down verbally, or attacks your character at the same time that you are seeking that person's Approval.

From that very individual ,sometimes our need for so much acceptance by our peers sets up unneccessary oppurtunities for let down or being rejected feeling thrown back or thrown away.We actually experience rejection at very early stages in our life. All the way when we are babies we start to develop he need to be accepted.

All at the same time our parents or caregivers at that time are trying to teach us independence and self reliance. While this is a good lesson to learn especially while we are young some parents/caregivers go to far with the withdrawal phase thus, producing early forms of rejection for the infants/babies.

The kids are seeking attention while still in their crib but the parents are too tired or caught of up in what they are doing to give the babies there desired attention. Thus producing neglect which is a form of rejection. Think back to a time in your early childhood when you were seeking attention from those you loved and those who you looked up too.

One of the most famous statements that parents make is, "Not now show me
later", and later never comes. The parents move forward and forget about it, but the kids never forget and hold on too those feelings of
rejection. The parents sometime continue this behavior until it becomes convenient to them.

At this time the kids are experiencing rejection and neglect by the parents and their entire facial expression and body demeanor changes as well. This is just the beginning of there young life's and yet they are building a foundation of neglect and rejection so early in there childhood. The kids start talking less
and being more stand-off

I have had some early personal experiences with rejection that might help shed some light on where rejection and where it starts. With my personal experiences rejection started early in my childhood with my Dad going in out of my life and then eventually disappearing for years at a time.

As a kid I felt like it was my fault that he would not come to see me. I often thought it was something I said or did to make him reject me. He left me with feelings of anger and resentment. I was so confused and was
unable to truly comprehend what I did wrong.

I continually sought his approval whenever I did see him over the years, I never really dealt with the rejection head on. A major step towards dealing with rejection is confronting your pain. If someone steps on your toe you say ouch you stepped on my toe, but when we feel rejected we as a culture just would rather not talk about it. Tell the individual who makes you feel rejected what they are doing.

That was the true foundation in my life for feelings of rejection.Reaching for someone who was uncapable of being what I needed a parent. In order to truly face rejection head on take some time and identify the first time you
started to feel rejection and how did you deal with it.

When identifying early childhood rejection it is important to take time to pray over your emotions and ask God to give you peace that passes all understanding. There is a weight being lifted as you start deal with those
feelings that have been locked away for so long.

There is nothing wrong with crying or meditating as the emotions from your childhood memories and feelings of rejection start to resurface all over again.The difference between now and back then is that now you have the right resources in order to help sift through these feelings and emotions.

As we start the process of going through those hidden places and feelings remember to read your bible to help gain sound Godly wisdom in
conjunction with reading this book for a complete release from those past hurts and pains those feelings of being thrown away.

Try to recall the way that you would respond after being rejected in your early years. Was your response aggressive,passive, aggressive-passive, or no response at all? Are you recalling things that you said after being rejected or wishing that you would have said things differently if given a second chance?

Another time in my childhood that I dealt with rejection is with having multiple siblings.