Without Goodbye

About the Book

After the sudden death of her husband, the author discovered the understanding that widows tend to receive; The Western world is not at all prepared to deal with something as certain as death. Our culture only prepares for life. Death and grief, on the other hand are completely ignored. No one has taught us how to treat a person who has suffered an important loss. Many well-intentioned but hurtful things are said this way, this is not because people don’t care about your pain, but because most of them do not know how to behave around grief. When you first lose your spouse, you have no idea of what to expect either. Your whole life has turned around, sometimes without warning. Most likely, no one explained what you were about to encounter. This book tries to show you what to expect after the death of a spouse. It also pretends to be a reminder that grief doesn’t need to involve negativity. But most of all, the author hopes her book will help you transform the thoughts that are keeping you anchored in the past. Why re-inventing yourself is so important. She hopes this book will give some much needed understanding to the widowed as well as to their family and friends.

About the Author

Fleur Hols was born and raised in the Netherlands, but she has lived in Barcelona, Spain, for most of her adult life. She is the proud mother of two beautiful daughters and grandmother of two little boys. She started writing as a healing therapy after the sudden death of her husband. While grieving him, she realised that grief could become a spiritual journey, one that leads to the awareness that everything in life is designed to help people grow; nothing is random. She believes that it’s entirely up to each person to convert the overwhelming despair he or she might feel insight into acceptance instead of bitterness. That is why she became an advocate for positive widowhood. She defends that there is no time limit in grief and she works as a certified grief coach towards a better understanding and integration of death and the bereaved in modern society.